Words of Wisdom For & From Men

“Advice is like snow – the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind.” –Samuel Taylor Coleridge

Ten local women took the time to share their advice, thoughts or wishes for the men in this area.

Tracy Petrovich, 45 – Middletown

“Listen to your mom. She knows what women want, need and how they want to be treated!”

Lucy Coleman, 87 – Harrisburg

“Don’t get married. That’s when all your troubles start. Don’t do it unless you’re ready to settle down.”

Gwen Miller, 39 – Harrisburg

“Be the ‘nice guy.’ Be the one to hold a door for a lady and text her random things every so often to let her know you’re thinking of her. Kiss her before she leaves the house. And if she doesn’t do the same in return, brush it off and try again with someone different.”

Bonnie Hassinger, 67 – Linglestown

“Be honest. Whether it’s at a job or in a relationship. The best thing to have is your honesty.”

Amy Foster, 30 – Harrisburg

“Communication is the key component in all relationships. Make sure you listen completely before responding and remember that people can’t read your mind. You have to say how and what you feel.”

Bryanna Chisholm, 23 – Harrisburg

“Be honest, and use your time wisely. Nothing is worse than wasted time in a relationship that you can never get back.”

Molly Sollenberger, 7 – Harrisburg

“Don’t smoke, because smoking hurts your lungs.”

Tameka Drayton, 40 – Harrisburg

“Stay authentic, and respect women by not treating them like an option. And treat your significant other as you would want someone else to treat your mother. That’s the best advice I can offer.”

Kimberly Slade, 39 – Brookhaven

“Do not lie. That’s my advice to men. It gets you nowhere.”

Scarlett Moyer, 58 – Harrisburg

“Be kind to all the females in your life. Respect us, love us and don’t believe the misogynistic hype. We deserve your best and so do you.”

Believe it or not, women aren’t the only ones handing out advice. Many times, the fatherly figures in our lives have useful wisdom as well.

Darien Perez, 17 – Harrisburg

“The best advice my pap gave me was to have the courage to live a life true to yourself, not the life others expect of you.”

Raymond Spencer III, 4 – Harrisburg

“To clean up all my trucks and cars and, um, that’s about it.”

Eric Dejesus, 23 – Harrisburg

“My dad taught me to learn from my mistakes, to leave what’s in the past in the past.”

Gail Foltz, 58 – Piketown

“My father told me, ‘When you get mad at your spouse, don’t run and tell your family. Because you’ll forgive him and they won’t.’”

Micah Williams, 41 – Steelton

“My dad taught me to work hard and save money.”

Olivia Sorensen, 16 – Harrisburg

“The best advice I received from my father is probably to stay positive no matter what happens or what I go through.”

Brandi Henderson, 22 – Steelton

“The best advice I received from my dad would be to never settle for less than I deserve when it comes to men.  And my brothers say I need to live my life for myself and make sure that I’m never stuck in a situation that I’m not truly happy in.”

Stacie Mosby, 42 – Oberlin

“The best advice my father has ever given me was that you have to believe in yourself and take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else.”

Mark Paumer, 25 – Harrisburg

“The best advice my father has given me is to control what I can and not worry too much about things that are out of my control.”

Tara Novosel, 46 – Harrisburg

“Just to be yourself and to not hide who you are from people.”